Hi! Here’s a template for how you should respond the next time you’re scraping the remnants of your heart, dignity, and self-respect off a cafe floor! Memorise it! 🙂 Then, when you have to use it, say it, and then get up and leave. Foreeeeeeeeevvvvvvvvvvverrrrrrr wheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!
This is incredible difficult to hear.
Everyone deserves to make such choices.
I have lost you and I need to come to terms with that.
You have also lost me, but that was what you wanted: You breaking up with me means you want to lose me.
Now I need to heal and move on in a way that is best for me and my life – and for me, that means no contact, no staying in touch, no reconnecting, no friendship; our lives are now separate, and you are a stranger to me, because you’ve chosen to make me a stranger to you.
You breaking up with me means you choose a life without me – any of me. After so much vulnerability and affection, for you to say you will have only a part of me as a friend is an insult – I don’t deserve to be dissected. I deserve to be known loved, in the full range and depth of my humanity.
My partner would not leave me, would not abandon me, would not choose a life without me, would strive to make it work with me.
You have already left, so you are not my partner, and maybe you never were, because I’m really a swan-type kind of lady-person-human.
My choices going forward are:
Something beautiful was irrevocably broken.
Or something beautiful existed only in my imagination.
I love you,