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Navigating White Male Gaze: Reclaiming “Femme” in a Brown Woman’s Body

Check out my piece on Nuance! Excerpt: “A few weeks ago, someone I was casually seeing asked me for a threesome. Let’s call him Ken. Ken was very kind in his request, shy about it in a way, and made … Continue reading

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20 Reasons to Not Date Until 30

Update, April 25, 2018: Well, it didn’t take me until  I’m 30 after all… Check out 20 Reasons to Date Again, a piece I wrote almost exactly a year to the date that I wrote this piece below. I turn … Continue reading

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Memory

CN: dissociation, and possibly other MH stuff, memory issues My favourite thing about the Netflix crime show Marcella has to be how Marcella navigates her memory fog. The fugue phases. Granted in her case, she usually does something extreme or … Continue reading

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Distracted

fingers building arpeggios like a bridge from then to now. we can’t go back. memory is a wormhole. pretend you’re yelling at someone. publicly and furiously. do you feel her flesh the moment the words land. when she blinks, do … Continue reading

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Explaining the ending of “The OA”

*Spoilers for the whole season below – if you are interested in this show and do not want to be spoiled, feel free to read other posts on this blog, whilst merrily skipping this one!*  I just binge-watched the new … Continue reading

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A letter to my mother: On Marriage and Happiness and Need and Want

Dear Mom, I know you want me to be happy. You’ve always said it, exasperatedly, sincerely, beautifully, sadly, kindly, sometimes unkindly if we’re going to be honest: that all you ever want is for me to be happy. I know … Continue reading

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Weekend Zee TV Special

TW: fatphobia, shame, suicidal ideation (graphic images), anti sex work stigma, Desi Family Drama My mother is anxious. I am at a Tim Horton’s. The problem with living in the middle of nowhere is that there is nowhere to go to … Continue reading

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Three Frenemies

Introduction: This piece is the first in a chronological series, set in a universe. Feel free to find the others here, and to browse through any companion piece, set in the same universe.  Witches 1. Three Frenemies 2. Fall Coven Meet 3. BeingLovedAgain 4. The Fourth Witch 6. The … Continue reading

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Dawkins, Shingles, a Penknife, and Pickled Mango/Ginger

The other day, I wrote a post on how valuing intentions can be a radically compassionate act. I’ve written too in a previous post about how Christmastime has been generally a very beautiful and meaningful time for me, and how reclaiming … Continue reading

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Valuing Intentions: A Radically Compassionate Act

Update: I have written a companion piece to this post, describing practical ways in which valuing intentions have manifested in my own life. You can find it here. So often in social justice movements, I see this chant being leveled … Continue reading

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