Category Archives: Thoughts on Life

Dad, What’s A Condom?

Check out my latest piece on nuance! Excerpt below; for full text, hit the link. Children’s sexual subjectivity matters. Why are we so scared to talk about it? “Dad, what’s a condom?” I walked into the small living room of our … Continue reading

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The Girl Made of Smoke and the Not-Boy

Introduction: This piece is one in a chronological series, set in a universe. Feel free to find the others here, and to browse through any companion piece, set in the same universe.  Witches 1. Three Frenemies 2. Fall Coven Meet 3. BeingLovedAgain 4. The Fourth Witch 6. The Three … Continue reading

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Things I Learned After Being Dumped

So much of how we heal after great pain depends on where we were in our lives  when the painful incident happened. For this reason, the healing process looks different for everyone. None of this is universal; not every person … Continue reading

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Mime

The gold flakes off those memories You see the gray stone underneath You pick up the glitter, paint it into hearts on your palms, diamond teardrops under your eyes, watch as some of it, weightless falls into the wash basin … Continue reading

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A Year Later

A year ago (almost exactly a year ago – Jan 24th, it was a tuesday, look it up) I was dumped. I don’t even know what to call it actually – it was the unceremonious ending of a stupid thing … Continue reading

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What My No Really Means

I find it interesting that while for most human interactions we leave room for growth, change, human misunderstandings, imperfection and fallibility, when it comes to sex, it is either completely “enthusiastic with ongoing consent” or rape. The flattening of a … Continue reading

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Online Dating: Mistakes Men Make In The First Conversation With Women And How To Fix Them

This is a blog post for men sincerely wanting to date women, and who are having trouble in our land of online dating. 1. Opening with a “joke” – DON’T ex: “Did it hurt?” —> some variation of “when you … Continue reading

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At the centre

at the centre of it all is this: those tender moments replay like videoreel slides out of sync, but they are still tender. but then I tell myself, clearly that is what I imagined, this tenderness betweeen us was me, … Continue reading

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When Writing Through Suffering Becomes Suffering Through Writing

 A lot of my writing happens when the stress of an experience or situation demands I think about what has happened. A lot of my analytic writing happens when I need to answer, for myself, the questions of “how” or … Continue reading

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An extended post mortem

some days from the past hang in the present, a soft layer over the now I guess all days do, technically, but I feel the weight of some days more than others. there are new songs i listen to sometimes … Continue reading

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