Tag Archives: relationships

When Writing Through Suffering Becomes Suffering Through Writing

 A lot of my writing happens when the stress of an experience or situation demands I think about what has happened. A lot of my analytic writing happens when I need to answer, for myself, the questions of “how” or … Continue reading

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An extended post mortem

some days from the past hang in the present, a soft layer over the now I guess all days do, technically, but I feel the weight of some days more than others. there are new songs i listen to sometimes … Continue reading

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Navigating White Male Gaze: Reclaiming “Femme” in a Brown Woman’s Body

Check out my piece on Nuance! Excerpt: “A few weeks ago, someone I was casually seeing asked me for a threesome. Let’s call him Ken. Ken was very kind in his request, shy about it in a way, and made … Continue reading

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20 Reasons to Not Date Until 30

Update, April 25, 2018: Well, it didn’t take me until  I’m 30 after all… Check out 20 Reasons to Date Again, a piece I wrote almost exactly a year to the date that I wrote this piece below. I turn … Continue reading

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Memory

CN: dissociation, and possibly other MH stuff, memory issues My favourite thing about the Netflix crime show Marcella has to be how Marcella navigates her memory fog. The fugue phases. Granted in her case, she usually does something extreme or … Continue reading

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Dredge

Last night, I turned into the moon; far away, one side: a shining face, shedding reflected light and tears, hanging on a paper wire from the ceiling of your bedroom; I am suspended over your bed. Sometimes I freeze time without meaning … Continue reading

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Blood and Lemon and Salt

“Why can’t we be friends” he asks. “It doesn’t seem right, we’ve known each other so long.” I have come to love the smell of things ending, a fresh and steely cut like blood and lemon and salt air that … Continue reading

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Dear Dudes

Dear Dudes: If you ever feel enraged with yourself because you feel guilty and then you project that rage onto the person to whom you should be saying sorry, please have this newsflash: You are not an adult. You are … Continue reading

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Lessons From

oh look it is a song relevant to this post: 1. Trust the feeling, the head-rush when he kisses you – hope without meaning to. Reach for respect and pretend you have it. Fall too quickly for a man who … Continue reading

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Recalibrating Relationships

I’ve gone through some combination of these steps with friendships/relationships where I’ve felt some imbalance in terms of how often I reach out and how much reciprocation I’m feeling in return. I think everyone goes through this at some point … Continue reading

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